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Shelby Tutty, MHA's avatar

This is a lesson you're mastering! Keep up the great job, Kristi!

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Jenn Kashiwa's avatar

Similar to yours, a lot of physical realities…either rest or rip, fuel or fracture! I can’t keep grinding out mindless workouts and I actually feel better! Duh!!!

This was a really good piece…🫶🏻

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Shelby Tutty, MHA's avatar

Thanks, Jenn! I appreciate you stopping by.

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Susan Campbell's avatar

This quote: "But I realized that I’m now an adult; I’m not here to please others. I’m not here to hold myself back in fear of what others think. It’s time to let go of what other people want me to do or what they think of me." As a natural born people pleaser, it's been a challenge to put myself first for fear of disappointing other people. And that led me to overthinking whether or not I was making the right decisions. But really I just ended up mentally drained. Perimenopause has helped me re-evaluate so much of my life. Thank you for sharing how you've been able to shift and grow. 🦋

And loving the terminology... peri-pausies and posties!! ❤️

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Kristi Koeter's avatar

Love this line: "Perimenopause serves as a course correction to adjust behaviors that weren’t in our best interest in the first place, such as ignoring a sleep routine or under-eating."

So true!

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Jess Mujica's avatar

I've played so much mental tennis I have tennis elbow!

Actually, I think tennis elbow is my version of "frozen shoulder" in the list of peri symptoms.

So much letting go, so much learning the new version of me in peri that feels like an old lady version.

So much f-ing mindfulness in taking care of myself yet I can't remember simple words. Lol

Peri-pregnancy: the birthing of a completely different me. Yet somewhere in there it's the most me.

Thank you for sharing that there is a deeper layer than the list of symptoms.

You are inspirational to all of us on this trail behind you. (I'm 5 years into the perimenopausal journey).

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Jess Mujica's avatar

...and yes, there is grief. Grief of the letting go in all the various aspects. And we are here to process it.

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Moorea Maguire's avatar

This so resonated with me. "I could win Wimbledon from the amount of mental tennis I played." Same here! 😆 I'm looking forward to reading more from you, Shelby.

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Shelby Tutty, MHA's avatar

If you ever want to play together, let me know! Thanks for your encouragement, Moorea!

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Chitra Eder's avatar

So insightful as usual. I’m a posty and there’s so much more goodness to come.

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Shelby Tutty, MHA's avatar

A "posty"... I love it!! Us peri-pausies need you more than ever!

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Dr Vicki Connop's avatar

Perimenopause is teaching me the skill of saying no, honouring my boundaries and giving up people-pleasing. An uncomfortable lesson, but very much needed. My body does not let me get away with that shit anymore. It's teaching me to put my needs front and centre...

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Shelby Tutty, MHA's avatar

All amazing! We're becoming more true to ourselves. I read something yesterday that said something like your body knows if you betray it by not putting it first. I wish I had saved it. It would be very funny if I was quoting you back to you.

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Dominika's avatar

This is very thoughtful and as someone going through perimenopause I can relate so much. As much as I am grateful for hrt I am still constantly in the state of flux and have to remind myself to just relax with what is, to step back and thank my body for what it is going through. Ruminating is also something I’ve been working on! Meditation definitely helps. Thank you for your post.

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Shelby Tutty, MHA's avatar

Thanks for reading and stopping by! Big changes are happening during this time in so many ways. I'm glad the hrt has taken the edge off AND that you're still doing things to help you feel better.

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