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Nov 4Liked by Shelby Tutty, MHA

"but I have to look in the mirror every day to see if I still look the same"--Love this:)

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Thanks for reading!

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I like "Shelby 2.0". :-)

I can relate to most of the symptoms you described.

I also understand the- all of a sudden none of my clothes feel right.

So much of this phase is like being in the last week of the menstrual cycle before we bleed. I refer to the weeks of the menstrual month in terms of seasons.

The perimenopause phase is very much the Fall phase.

Remember those days leading up to a big bleed?

The inward pull to dodge that person that was exhausting? Wanting to just say no and wish you made space in your day for a nap?

Or the way you snapped at your husband, child, mom, guy that ignored you at the deli counter?

Or the way all of a sudden you over think the way you said something or the way they said something?

And then there's the days of feeling so indecisive about everything!

I might change clothes three times before i go out cause it all feels to constricting and itchy.

And have no interest in cooking another damn meal.

The brain fog makes an appearance while trying to talk about that person's name you just had but now forgot.

Nevermind, I'm gonna watch a sappy show and cry and eat popcorn for dinner.

Wait, am I still talking about perimenopause or the pms week/fall week?

They are basically the same. Wonky hormones that are coming in for a landing.

Shelby, thanks again for such a relatable article!

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Your brilliant comment gave me a hilarious idea. I'm going to write an article where I say something, and then you translate it into all of this. You captured so much of this experience and how I was trying to describe it. You're a Shelby translator. Thank you for adding so much value to this article!

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